[Titus 2] freedom to worship

The aged women likewise, that they be in behavior as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the younger women to be sober


As I sat down to write these articles I was assailed with doubts. “You’re not an older woman! Even if you were, you certainly aren’t someone that others should look up to!” I reached for the laptop, intending to shut it and walk away when I felt the Spirit calm my wild thoughts.

 Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus… (Rom. 8:1)

My dear friend, Cindy (one of my older women!) once said to me that memorizing scripture increases the Holy Spirit’s vocabulary in your life. She, in turn, probably learned that from someone else. Oh, that’s right. This is not about me.

Everything I am about to write, I know because someone, somewhere, took the time to teach it to me. I grew up in a Christian home, so I have had the privilege to have been under the influence of Christian men and women all of my life. I may be only in my late-twenties, which is so very young compared to some, but that means that I have been learning the ways of God for over twenty years!

My heart may be filled with ugliness; rebellion, pride, anger, lust, bitternessBut the sins of my heart only make me hold so much tighter to the cross of Jesus Christ

 We are more than conquerors through him who loved us… (Rom. 8:37)

Thank you, Lord!


Attributes of a godly woman (1) Sober

For many years I assumed that “sober” in the context of Titus 2, meant exactly what the first definition in the dictionary said, “1.  not intoxicated: not under the influence of drugs or alcohol [1]

I liked that meaning. Mostly because I could then check it off my list.

Ways to be Godly: 1. Don’t drink. Check.

We all like things that are easy, right?

Then came the day that I was sitting at a Bible Study and the leader ruined all my preconceived ideas. Come to find out that “not intoxicated” is but a small part of the word “sober”. Other words began filling up the space.

Tempered, restrained, serious, thoughtful.

I began to see that my check mark didn’t even begin to cover this attribute that is described.

The new definition: “2. To voluntarily place limitations on ones own freedom.”

Oh, no. Lord? Being sober, for me, doesn’t have much to do with drinking. In my case, it includes not reading too much, since I devourer books the way some people drink. It includes watching to make sure that I’m not spending too much time with friends and not enough maintaining my home. It includes… a list a mile long.

Lord? Oh, that’s right. No condemnation. Just encouragement.

 Press on toward the goal to win the prize… (Philippians 3:14)

To be sober-minded, taking life seriously, thoughtfully, with purpose. Not that one does not laugh and sing and shout for joy. On the contrary! Instead it means to do everything, [even your laughing, singing and shouting for joy] purposefully. 


Wait! There is more. It is not just being purposeful to not do things, or to have the right heart… it is also to do certain things. I have the freedom to not spend time in the Word or in prayer but I can place limitations on my freedom. I can choose to get up in the morning and open the Word of God. I can choose to kneel down before my Father in heaven and ask for his help, confess my sins and surrender my will to his.

Ways to be Godly: 1. Willingly place limitations on my freedom; choosing instead to do whatever is necessary to bring honor and glory to my Savior and Lord.

The check mark at the end might not be so easy to place but the rewards? Far superior.

Make it Real
Anyone can read an article but it takes a little more effort to apply it. 
Here is something practical you can do to make this real in your life:
If you are not already doing so, take time everyday to read something in the Word. It doesn’t have to be chapters and chapters. Just something.
Another wise woman once told me,

“There have been times in my life when I could not read more than a verse or two before one of the children needed me. But that was enough.” 

[1]# Encarta ® World English Dictionary © & (P) 1998-2005 Microsoft Corporation. All rights reserved.# Encarta ® World English Dictionary © & (P) 1998-2005 Microsoft Corporation. All rights reserved.


3 thoughts on “[Titus 2] freedom to worship

  1. Thanks for the great reminder, Natasha, to take that one small step toward being more “sober.” My oldest son actually convicted me to be in the Word daily. No matter how little time he had, he would read at least a verse from his Bible every morning, probably from the time he reached age 10. If this young lad can commit to such a discipline, how can I not follow! Beginning with the Lord renews each day before it even begins. As for your age, be encouraged. “Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity” (1 Timothy 4:12).


  2. For years, I had the “younger women” portion of Titus 2:4-5 highlighted in my Bible. Then came the time, when God pointed out that I had reached the point where I should highlight the “older woman” part in verse 3! I didn’t like that idea very much; in fact, I rebelled and dragged my feet for quite awhile. Eventually though, I had to admit that the time had come so now, it too, is highlighted!

    Enjoyed your post!


  3. Pingback: [Titus 2] to submit or not to submit {and is that even the question?} « To Live For Him

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