[Titus 2] to submit or not to submit {and is that even the question?}

That they may teach the younger women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. 

Attributes of a godly woman (8) Obedient to Their Own Husbands

I still remember the day a woman named Tish, who was mentoring me at the time, said, “Submission is all about trusting God.”

It is so easy for mankind to turn this requirement for obedience into something personal and offensive, but its not. Submission really is about trusting God. Not your husband, not yourself: your God.

God is the one who put this instruction in the Word. He knows your husband. He knows you. Every day that you choose to submit to your husband you are, in essence, saying, “Okay, God, I trust that you know what you’re doing.”

I don’t think it can be emphasized enough that even if you don’t trust your husband (because, lets be real, some people have proven themselves to be untrustworthy) you can still choose to trust that God will work through him.

I once had a woman exclaim to me, “I hate the idea of submission because it makes me feel like a servant!” Do not forget what Jesus himself said, “…just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve…” (Matt. 20:28)  If our God was willing to be a servant, how much more so us?

All the reasons for avoiding submission turn out to be selfish. The Bible tells us to “…do nothing out of selfish ambition…” (Philippians 2:3)  There is simply no way to avoid it. We are told to be obedient to our husbands. To yield our will to another.


Here’s the truth: I don’t like yielding my will to others. I have this inherent self-protection instinct in me. I think that if I don’t champion my cause, no one will. I’ll be run over and controlled. And I fear that.

I don’t want to allow my husband the final say in matters. Especially matters in which I think I have a better understanding than him. Because I fear being controlled.

I don’t want to allow my husband to make decisions about our lives. I want to control my own destiny. (Even in little things like, having people over for dinner or letting my husband meet up with his guy friends)  Because I fear being controlled.

To say it plainly: Nothing in my flesh wants to allow my husband to control anything. Because I fear being controlled.

Do you know where fear comes from? I’ll give you a hint: it’s not from God!

There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. I John 4:18

It is my flesh, my earthly desires, the enemy at work in my life.   

And I am not a slave to my flesh.

Remember when we talked about willingly placing limitations on our freedom?

It’s true that we don’t have to listen to our husbands. We don’t have to yield our will to theirs. We don’t have to follow Christ. God gave us free will. You always have a choice. Don’t let anyone convince you that “submitting” is taking away your choices or your freedoms. That’s a lie. And it doesn’t even make sense when you think about it.  

In the end the question is not  “am I going to submit to my husband or not?” rather it is, “am I going to follow Christ?”

Are you?

Make it Real

Make a commitment to pray, every day for a week, for your husband. Tell God that you are choosing to trust him and ask for ways to display a submissive spirit to your husband. Not because of him. Not because of you. But because God is faithful and trustworthy.


End Note

Now that I’ve come to end of these articles, I am amazed. All of the beautiful women of God who have influenced my life are spread through here for all to see. They are the Titus 2 women. Who is influencing your life? Do you have a list of Titus 2 women? Who are you influencing? Are you being a Titus 2 woman to anyone?

                Start paying attention. You might be surprised.

                                                                To Him who is able to keep us from falling,




10 thoughts on “[Titus 2] to submit or not to submit {and is that even the question?}

  1. Wow, what a powerful post. It is amazing the deception satan uses in the area of submission. His deception is that feeling and belief that we are loosing utter control when in fact by doing so(submitting) our lives are empowered and spirit filled giving us a far greater control over our our lives than we would have had otherwise.


    • I love how you put that! “our lives are empowered and spirit-filled, giving us a far greater control…”

      So, so true. And so many times I forget and allow myself to be trapped and powerless.


    • I have been blessed with a wonderful husband but I have watched many of my friends walk a very different road.
      I pray that you will see God’s faithfulness, despite others failures. ❤


  2. Submission to my husband is a tough one for me, Natasha. I am a very strong-willed woman. Sometimes it seems like him and I are enemies, which is foolish, since we generally have the same goals in mind, especially when it comes to our children.
    My heart is slowly changing, but only through the grace of God and the guidance of the Holy Spirit.
    Thanks for another through-provoking post.


    • Oh, how I understand! Sometimes I wish I could just box up my will and send it to Timbuktu!
      But it’s not just in this area that I have to learn to yield… God asks for a surrendered heart in every area (and I am not good at giving it to him, unfortunately.)
      Amen to the grace of God and the guidance of the Holy Spirit! ❤


  3. Good Morning Natasha! I love your blog! Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this “wifely” topic. I suspect that if I’m submitting to God, I will also sit into that comfortably in front of my husband. To God be the glory! -Blessings girl, Amy


  4. Wonderful post: It really is whether we’re willing to trust God or not.
    Even when I don’t agree with my husband it is still my calling to submit to him, it is he who will have to answer to the Father for what he did and I, for what I did.


  5. Pingback: The path to submission | Marriage Life Is Good!

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